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When something emotionally uncomfortable comes up, I'm most likely to:
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Distract myself or check out
Stay present and breathe through it
Fix or manage the situation
Get irritated or push back
Go quiet and withdraw
After a long, stressful day, I usually unwind by:
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Replaying conversations or feeling edgy
Moving my body or being outside
Staying busy or productive
Collapsing into scrolling or distraction
Having a drink, getting high, or zoning out
When my partner wants to talk about feelings, my first instinct is to:
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Try to solve the problem
Slow down and listen
Avoid the conversation
Defend myself
Say as little as possible
In moments of emotional closeness, I notice myself:
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Wanting escape or relief
Relaxing into the connection
Monitoring how it's going
Feeling pressure or irritation
Pulling back internally
When conflict escalates, I tend to:
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Take control of logistics
Shut down or disappear
Monitoring how it's going
Feeling pressure or irritation
Pulling back internally
When I feel overwhelmed, my body usually feels:
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Hot, tense, or charged
Braced and responsible
Numb or checked out
Feeling pressure or irritation
Pulling back internally
If I'm honest, I use substances, habits, or distractions:
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Mostly to stay functional
Occasionally, with awareness
Regularly to avoid feeling
Rarely—I just go quiet
Sometimes when angry or stressed
When someone gives me feedback I don't like, I usually:
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Argue or justify myself
Withdraw emotionally
Pause and consider it
Want to escape or numb out
Explain my reasoning
In relationships, I often feel:
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Like I'm carrying more than my share
Easily frustrated
Mostly present and engaged
Unsure what I'm feeling
Disconnected or bored
When intimacy deepens, my nervous system:
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Goes into management mode
Gets reactive
Wants relief or distraction
Settles
Pulls away
When I'm hurt or disappointed, I tend to:
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Get angry instead
Avoid feeling it
Name it directly
Shut down
Stay busy
If sex or closeness starts to fade, my response is usually:
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Try to "fix" things
Check out into habits or fantasy
Get curious and stay engaged
Feel resentful
Go emotionally quiet
When I have unmet needs, I:
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Take care of everyone else
Express them clearly
Demand change
Keep them to myself
Ignore them
Under pressure, people close to me would say I become:
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Intense or sharp
Calm and steady
Controlling or rigid
Absent or checked out
Distant
When something in my life feels off, I'm most likely to:
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Push harder
Numb or distract myself
Take on more responsibility
Slow down and listen inwardly
Withdraw
My relationship to anger is:
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I channel it into productivity
It comes out fast
I try not to feel much at all
I notice it without acting it out
I suppress it
When I imagine staying fully present during conflict, I feel
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Responsible for fixing it
Uncomfortable—I'd rather escape
On edge
Capable but challenged
Reluctant
When I'm alone, my inner state is often
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Numb
Agitated
Settled
Busy
Quiet but distant
When someone needs something emotionally from me
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I feel pressured
I disengage
I can usually stay with them
I want to avoid it
I try to manage the situation
If I'm honest, the biggest drain on my energy is
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Withdrawing from connection
Avoiding how I really feel
Staying present under stress
Carrying too much responsibility
Managing my reactions